Friday, May 11, 2012

Still Cruising....Its not how fast


I first noticed him as I eased into third-mainland Bridge from Ikoyi axis. His horn was shrill and made my skin crawl, he flashed his light impatiently at me and for a brief second I was confused.

 I looked at my speedometer; it showed I was moving at 100kmph, so I shrugged him off as being impatient and kept looking ahead. He swerved to my right, slightly missing an okada*, who in turn swerved in quick reaction to avoid being hit; I giggled as the okada* rider spread out his five fingers abusively and rained out word of insult after him. 

Thankfully the road ahead was free, I should be home in about an hour, I thought happily to myself. It had been one of those days when I take a look at my life and wonder at how far away I still am from where I hoped to be. Yes life was good, but in four days, I’d be 30 and well, there were still loose ends.  As much as my business was progressing, it wasn’t stable enough for me to resign from my paid job. A good friend had asked me to resign and watch things take a turn, but, I just wasn’t so convinced yet.

HONK! HONK! The annoying horn cut into my thoughts, I checked my rear-view mirror and noticed that the recipient of my “friends” impatient act this time was a BRT bus. I ignored him, and changed lanes. He followed my lead and on seeing a danfo* bus in front of me, he quickly swerved to my left and overtook me. I noticed that the danfo* was a bit slow, and thought of following my “friend” but then I noticed that the cars to the left were also slow, so I waited a bit (for the road to be free), swerved to the right, overtook the danfo and I was home free again. For kicks I searched out my friend in my rear view and saw him still struggling for a way out as the slow vehicles hemmed him in.
  
This scenario repeated itself twice before I pulled over at Oworonshoki to drop off a colleague, both occasions; he would swiftly overtake me only to get hemmed in as a result of uncalculated choices and impatience. As he passed by me, my “friend” honked and flashed me a thumbs up and a salute, I smiled as the thought hit me, “indeed the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill; but time and chance happen to them all.”(Ecc 9:11)

It's not always about how fast we go, but about the paths we take to get to our destination, I went at a slower pace, but hit the mark (Oworonshoki) before my friend who for most of the journey must have hit 120kmph and above. The rest of the journey, I spent time relieving all the lessons I had garnered in my almost 30 years. Yes I might not have hit the mark I hoped but Lord knows, every path had taught me how to be the best me for the mark I am soon to hit.

Like the lyrics from the Walt Disney soundtrack* “Whatever road looks way too far, It's not what you have, It's who you are”. So relish the race, no matter how “slow”, and you should know my friend...slow is just a relative term 


..Dying to live
Living to try
Feet on the ground
Dreams in the sky
It's never how much you have
It's who you are 


Okada - Local term for commercial motorbike
Danfo - Local term for commercial bus

16 comments:

  1. I thought you were gonna say that the guy later got down from the car, toasted u and became your husband

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    1. Hahaha, and come to think of it, it'll have make a good "how we met" story o ;)

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  2. LOL @ilola haha..same here..good lesson learnt lady

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  3. Ha ha ha. Looks like we're all thinking the same thing. I thought it was your husband trying to track you down but you didn't realize it. Lol. Anyhow, this was beautiful to read and serves as a confirmation for myself and hubby as well. In addition to not how fast, it's also not about the quantity but the quality. Over time quality produces quantity.

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    1. Hahaha, hubby doing some ninja moves abi...lol

      Quantity sure beats quality, at the end of the day, no matter how hard we try to hide it, poor quality always ends up bearing poor quality returns

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  4. hmmm the race indeed is not to the swift...I still believe slow and steady wins the race.

    thanks for sharing...

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  5. beautiful lyrics. i am listening to a song with a similiar message right now! slow is indeed a relative term. thanks for sharing.

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    1. It sure is o, cos we all have our own unique journey.

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  6. Thanks for sharing, reading the post and listening to the song has been soothing. :)

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  7. i thot it was going to be a happily ever after story...........

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  8. LMAO! @ilola

    Interesting experience to learn a life lesson from!
    I can remember how in such circumstances have me also realizing that driving smart gets you ahead and not driving fast!

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  9. Lol, you really had us going! Funny how God always has a way of teaching us big lessons through seemingly simple things/experiences. Thank you so much for sharing, this is some serious food for thought and a reminder to take it easy in traffic

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  10. Loving the quotes. Can i use it as my description of myself in an online account?

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