Thursday, January 28, 2010

Living for the joy of it

I was flipping through some stack of papers in my drawer
and stumbled on a copy of the serenity prayer i had from years back
I read the words again...

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him (Reinhold Niebuhr)

Days spent at the computer struggling to meet the deadline
Oblivious to the sweet process of creativity,
more conscious of the ticking clock that would soon strike time,
time to dash out of the office lest i spend the best part of the evening 
along the crazy traffic that has become the norm here in Lagos

Hours spent pinning for the things my heart desires
Blind to the abundance that presently surrounds.
More aware of the supposed satisfaction of those who have to themselves
Those things that seem far, beyond my reach.

It was a conversation last year that brought the change
I sat behind two women at a function
Apparent friends who had lost contact over the years
and were excited to finally see once again.

They talked about the years past and accomplishments so far.
The one ohhhh'ed and ahhhh'ed  as the other flashed her wedding band
and the other waved dismissively
as she bounced the one's little girl on her laps, 

You see, one had a marriage and no child
The other, a child and no marriage.
And to each, the other was better off
i couldnt help but laugh out loud.

How many times we live life struggling with the things we cannot control
How often we choose to dwell on the negatives rather than celebrate the positives
How often we wait for life to give us the right environment for peace, for joy
When every single second, the choice lies with us to decide what to feel.

Two things resound in my head these days...entering and living in God's rest and Changing my perspective, its amazing how life can seem so different in the light of these even when sometimes we do not see anything in the physical that has changed

I stumbled on this blog and these words made so much sense to me

I choose to live with heavenly perspective, in the mist of earth uncertainties.
Tomorrow is a million miles away, but I choose to hope and believe that it will come,

I have today to be my best in the service of mankind.
I choose today to set aside, malice, strive, anger, hatred, grudge, evil conversation
And embrace, peace, forgiveness, love, faith, purity.
I choose to see the beauty in each day, regardless of the weather
I strive for perfection only in what will be for the benefit of others.
Sometimes I may succeed, sometimes I may fail,
But that’s ok, because as long as I take one day at a time,
I may achieve the ultimate goal, hope blossoming into reality

Monday, January 11, 2010

Finally!!!! A Post

Last night was total bliss
I felt totally woman
Encased within his grip
as he gently stroked my hair,
kissing the nape of my neck.

The day didnt start out that way
There was the hour i felt un-appreciated
Then the hour i felt really hurt
There was the hour he didnt feel my support
Then the hour he felt misunderstood.

As the day wound to it end
Just minutes after the soccer game ended
And the dinner dishes had been put away
i turned off the TV, walked up to him and...
That was when "IT" began.

Phew!!!!!! i finally get the chance to update and boy am i glad...the holidays and the start of the year has been better than i expected i tell you, even though work has left me no breathing space.

Just wanted to start the year by sharing the above which happened some weeks back actually as D and i talked through a series of things that has been getting to us recently, like spending lottsa time apart cos of his work, and not communicating as often cos of stress. Like me being really angry about the situation and not knowing how to deal with that or where to direct the anger (which sometimes can make me a bit cranky when he comes back cos i know he'd soon be off again)...and other things which he hasn't given me the permission to

Its amazing how "life" can sometimes happen to us married couple and we don't even see the signs until the tension begins to build.

Living in Lagos sure doesn't help one bit but that's not an excuse to let the hassles of live override the things that matter the most.

So, we're taking steps each week to build our relationship while apart,  and last week, we decided that rather than turning to TV or the internet to chase the blues (of being apart) away, we would pick something of interest to share at night, this could be a bible passage or a chapter in a seems very mundane but it sure works for us.

Wonder what this week holds for us...I do know that dealing with the distance is getting a bit better, even though I'm praying all the travelling would end pretty soon.

Have a great week y'all.

Info on my meeting Writefreak coming up soon (wink)

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