Thursday, November 18, 2010

Welcome Home

So I was waiting for the last of them for this see, the women around me are like successful farmers, sowing and reaping the fruits of their womb as though they are the only ones God gave the mandate to "be fruitful and multiply"...hehehehe....

I dedicate this post to officially welcome my lovely  nieces, nephew-in-law (is there such a word?), and surrogate niece, here they are in order of birth

 Anuoluwa-Chimmy ( God's Mercy/God did it) - Chimmy being short for Chimere - Born on the 20th September and the 9th grandchild of my mum and dad (hmm, them don try o, thats what u get when u birth 5 girls...hehehe)

Ayomide (My joy has come) - The first grandchild in my family dynasty (from my hubby's side), Born on the 1st of October

Jahkim - Toluwani (God Established/ God's own) - My lovely surrogate niece, Born on the 6th of November

Kella or Kelechi-Daniella - My adorable niece, born on the 15th of November and the 10th grandchild of my mom and dad.

Its amazing how faithful God has been, and to think i already have 5 on the count down for next year...Wow, I'm surrounded by blessed women

PS: I apologize in advance to Ayomide, so sorry i wasn't able to get a clearer picture of u, and when u get to see this in the future, pls know that you have ur uncle D to blame
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Wednesday, November 10, 2010

No title

I really am not sure what to title this, I just know I have a lot on my mind and I have decided I want to share them here, in this place.

Lately, I've been ungrateful and I hate that about me, I've bitched about my house and how much I hate the environment, how crass it is and how its wasn't in my plan to remain in this kind of environment after marriage. I've nagged about how the traffic causes me so much stress and agitation and how spending 3hours to work and 3hours back is causing me so much grief. I've grumbled about how for the past year, each time we are about to make concrete plans on our "vacation" something else comes up and we have to abort...bottom line, I've been doing a lot of grumbling lately and each time I complain, D makes a step to try and make that situation better for me, he stretches himself to try and make things more comfortable for me....and is that enough? NO, I keep thinking, all I wanna do is just get out of this environment....yeah, I've been that kind of wife and no, I'm not proud of it.

I've been the type to shake my head at people that are caught up with "keeping up with the Joneses" but lately its hit me, that's exactly what has been plaguing me of about removing the speck in your brothers eye without first dealing with the log in your eye.

I could blame it on the fear of having to keep "hustling" like I did all through most of my younger years, but hey, I'm not the first and i wont be the last. I could blame it on PMS, but news flash, I'm not the only woman in the world and others are living life just fine. I could blame it on the burden of daily round the clock stress but, I am aware that a million others face even worse stress.

All in all, I've not been a very supporting wife to a husband who has done all in his power to make his wife happy, from a face uplift at home, to getting me a driver, to promising me that vacation, no matter how small and this is my way of telling him I'M SORRY (cos he's always the first to read my blog), and also my way of holding myself accountable to change. I wanna choose contentment, and I wont stop there, I would go ahead and choose contentment. Mama didn't raise no whiner so I don't plan to disappoint her neither do I plan to compromise on the vow "for better or worse". I know life is what I make it and I know that godliness with contentment is great gain so I had better start living out what I know.

Who knows, I might take down this post in a few days to come so as not to "tarnish my image", or I might leave it, who knows, it might serve a good purpose someday, whatever the case, this post is up for now cos I believe sometimes it helps to share that chink in the armor with people who can both help you or be helped by you. And if it comes back to bite me in the behind...oh well, guess that'll make another story.

PS: I still don't have a title :)

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Is it your business?

So yesterday, I had a Soda and biscuits as breakfast and by 2pm, I felt hunger pangs and knew nothing else would make sense until I eat.

Just as I was about to ask the office assistant to help me pick up something for lunch, my colleague said, haaa, Mrs, you are getting big o, maybe you should skip lunch today...I slowly turned to look him over properly, I took in his protruding tummy, made more obvious by the almost bursting buttons on his shirt, shook my head, ignored him and kept on speaking with the office assistant.

He "wisely" waited for the guy to leave then he repeated his this point, I really couldn't hold my tongue anymore cos this was a clear case of the pot calling the kettle black, so I told him....Mr, when I get any where near you, then I know for sure that there is cause for alarm....number 2, it is no business of yours how big or how small I am, number 3, when I start wearing size 10 dresses, then maybe you can talk, but as far as I still fit into my size 8 dresses, then I am not overweight, also even when I start wearing size 10 dresses, you still do not have the right to talk cos as long as I'm 5ft11, I reserve the right to wear size 10 dresses.

That said and done I turned to face my some may say I should have kept mute, but in my defense, I'm done with people discussing my weight, last year, it was that I looked too small to be a married woman, this year that nature has allowed me put on some flesh, people still talk, so I'm sending this post out as a warning, If you see me and you think you have something to say about my weight, do yourself a favor and let it remain just that....a thought....Now that being said, I think i can face my work...hehehe

Ok, to be fair, I wasn't angry at all at him, just amused at how people carry extra "wahala" on their head, plus, I'm proud of my new found size...D says he like the "feel" *wink wink*
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Friday, October 8, 2010

When I wondered why...

I had been in the mud pits for most of that day
Being a child, I loved the mud,
I loved its sticky browness and its seeming warmth
The way it made its way into the crevices between toes n fingers
The way it caked on my skin when I let it stay on me a while.
I loved the mud

I remember getting home and seeing my siblins
Beaming excitedly as they packed for summer camp.
You see, today was the first day of camp
Daisy, CeeCee and Karen were sure to go.
So naturally, I though I would too
I saw mum...saw the slight frown, the gentle shake of her head
and then her smile.
I guess she was dissapointed in the dirt, But she loved me still

With one wave of her hand she sent me to the bath
and with tender strokes washed away all the grime
I watched the brown stains drain away, 
never to return ever again....I was clean

I waited and waited for my bags to be packed
But it never was.
When I asked, all i got was that same gentle shake of her head
"Not this time darlin", not this time....
Crushed, I swore never to return to the mud
I remembered in shame how I splashed around in the pits
Now, because of it, Mum loved me less
And there would be no summer camp for me

Two years passed, Each year, camp came and passed
But I remained at home...that darned mud pit
Today, one week to the start of camp, 
mum came in and asked me to get set...I was going to camp
She said it was never my time all those years
But now was perfect timing
I began to cry...all these while i knew mum loved me
But i felt she loved me a lil less cos of that time i was messed up
Turns out she never stopped loving me, 
All she wanted was for my best....
and now....MY BEST IS HERE


Ps 103:2(MSG) 
"as far as sunrise is from sunset, he has separated us from our sins."....
Eph 3: 17-19
....And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
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Thursday, September 30, 2010

Seeing the Finish Line

Its about the 2000th mile.....
I feel my muscles straining,
hear my echoes from another plane,
My heart pounds so hard against my chest....and I savor the feeling,
It tells me I still have strides in me,
There's no giving up this race....till I cross the finish line.

....The Finish line...
Now, that's an interesting part of this race,
Cos, I don't know where "it" is,
3000th mile? 4000th?....
I really do not know,
But I know its there, somewhere in the horizon,
My coach says it is...He's seen it you know.

So I pace,
I listen out for my coach and I pace....
"Slow down now" He says
"Now pick up the speed"
"Have a drink of water"
"I know you're weak, but just take one step"
"One foot in front of the can do this".

And that's how we've come this far, Coach and I
I remember telling Him once,
"Just tell me where the race ends, lemme know where the line is
then I'll be better, I'd plan the course and at least I'd know
how much longer I have left till the final distance"
To which He replied.
"All you need, and all you'd ever need to cross that line
Is to listen to me,
Let My voice be your focus,
then I would guide you, and bring you across that finish line"

Hebrews 12:2a (New International Version)

Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith,
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Wednesday, September 8, 2010


I'm reading the book "Finishing Strong" by Steve Farrar, I have read it some years back but while in the bookshop I stumbled on it (I gave my previous copy out to a friend who seized and so I bought another copy, intending to give it to hubby. I saw it on the dresser yesterday and i picked it up and started to read, I read this poem and it struck a chord.

If you're like me, you've been to the place of "failure" on several occasions, that place where you just want to give up and walk away from that dream that looms higher than you, if you're in that place now, I pray you get to read this poem and be encouraged to keep on moving on, no matter how hard. It tells the story of a boy in a race and how he fell three times but because of his father cheering him on in the stands he got up each time and continued the race.

Maybe you don't have anyone cheering you on and you feel its not worth it, lemme be that voice cheering you on today...go ahead and keep is not a 100yard dash, but a marathon, its not about how fast you finished...its that you did finish.


Defeat, he lay there silently
A tear dropped from his eye
There's no sense running anymore
Three strikes, I'm out, why try?

The will to rise had disappeared
All hope had fled away
So far behind so error prone
A loser all the way

"I've lost, so what", he thought
I'll live with my disgrace
But then he thought about his dad
Whom soon he'd have to face

"Get up" the echo sounded low
"Get up" and take your place
You were not meant for failure here
"Get up", and win the race

With borrowed will "Get up" it said
"You haven't lost at all"
For winning is no more than this
To rise each time you fall

So up he rose to run once more
And with a new commit
He resolved, that win or lose
At least he shouldn't quit

So far behind the others now
The most he'd ever been
Still he'd give it all he had
And run as though to win

Three times he'd fallen, stumbling
Three times he'd rose again
Too far behind to hope to win
He still ran to the end

They cheered the winning runner
As he crossed the line first place
Head high and proud and happy
No falling, no disgrace

But when the fallen youngster
Crossed the line, last place
The crowd gave him the greater cheer
For finishing the race

And even though he came in last
With head bent low, unproud
You would have thought he'd won the race
To listen to the crowd

And to his dad he sadly said
"I didn't do too well"
"To me you won", his father said
"You rose each time you fell"

by D. H. Groberg

PS: For the sake of the length i cut off a few verses, i hope the message still got across...

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

I Praise - Day 31 (The gift of New Mindsets)

31 days Father, and today my heart rejoices, through it all i have realized the gift in choosing to praise, in choosing to walk in a constant state of thanksgiving even when things dont seem like it.

Its been an amazing month, You have opened new doors, You have blessed the works of my hands, You have caused my heart to rejoice and when the tears flowed, i still found a melody within to hold on to.

A new month is here already, and for me, its going to be a month of continual praise. Indeed, the joy of the Lord is my strength....through this month, You have strengthened me as I remained in an attitude of thanksgiving...

BE GLORIFIED for ever and ever.
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Monday, August 30, 2010

I Praise - Day 30 (The gift of God's Wonder)

O Lord, my God
When I in awesome wonder
Consider all the works Thy hands has made.
I see the stars, I hear the rolling thunder.
Thy power throughout the universe displayed.
Then sings my soul
My savior God to Thee,
How great Thou art.

Father Your awesomeness overwhelms me at this point and I'm at loss for words to exalt You as You truly deserve....To know You, to Love You, to trust in You, is a gift, and Lord, for this, I say Thank You. That I am called Your daughter, I say Thank You,That I can boast in You as my Father, I say, Thank You.

What more could a girl want Lord??????
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Sunday, August 29, 2010

I Praise - Day 29 (The gift of progress)

So we commenced on phase 2 and even though there was a glitch and an important team member bailed out last minute (situation beyond her control), we still hit our target.

For this Lord, I'm grateful. I know I started out being agitated, I know I'm still kindda upset (but I know it'll pass soon) but I also know that You deserve all the praise and glory right now.

Thank You Father, and as we move on to finalize phase 2, we continually look to You to see as through.
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Saturday, August 28, 2010

I Praise - Day 28

I've heard stories, seen situations, women who don't like their mothers-in-law, mothers-in-law choosing not to love the woman their son has chosen to spend the rest of his lives with, But today Lord, I want to thank you for this mother who has embraced me as hers , this mother who respects me in ways that amaze me, this mother with whom. I have experienced a continuous outflow of love.

She prayed for me like my mother would, covered me like my mother would and so Lord for blessing me with her love, today I want to say THANK YOU
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Friday, August 27, 2010

I Praise - Day 27 (The gift of rest)

Father, I looked forward to this time, when I could lie back and just drift.

Deadlines met, responsibilities met, and for the next few hours, all that is required of me is just to rest.

I could argue, that its nothing to be grateful for but then I reflect on those people for whom the longing for rest is a continous one, they never know when or if that rest would come. Even in sleep, rest still alludes them.

So Father, once again I say, THANK YOU, for the gift of rest
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Thursday, August 26, 2010

I Praise - Day 26 (The gift of peace)

Peace I leave with you, my own peace I now give and bequeath to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid....John 14:27 (Amp).

Today was a roller coaster, excitement mixed with exhaustion, mixed with new challenges then more exhaustion, and when I began to feel that fear in my heart, wondering if maybe I had bitten off more than I could chew, I found my peace in You, in Your word.

Thank You for the peace I find in You Father, no one else can fill my heart with peace the way that You do, and because of this peace I am strenghtened.
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Wednesday, August 25, 2010

I Praise - Day 25 (The gift of fellowship)

I'm heading home now after todays service and as my Spirit rejoices in Your word, I want to thank You for the gift of fellowship, for the gift of corporate praise, the gift of corporate prayer.

Thank You too for Your word, which brought wisdom (without sorrow), With all my heart, I thank You for a time of fellowship with You.
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Tuesday, August 24, 2010

I Praise - Day 24 ( The gift of progress)

We're moving on with the new project and Lord I'm excited.

We're satisfied with what we've done so far and so Lord today I just want to say Thank You for the completion of phase 1.

Thank You cos there were no glitches, no hassles beyond what we could handle and no wasted efforts.

As we prepare to embark on Phase 2... I ask that You take control.

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Monday, August 23, 2010

I Praise - Day 23 (Thankful for little acts of love)

I'm smiling so hard right now Dad, and You know why.

I don't have much to say tonight, but I'd love to say thank You for the little acts of love that make me smile long after the moment is past.

Life is beautiful when love brushes gentle strokes across our hearts, and for this, I go to bed tonight with gratitude in my heart.

PS: Though there are those moments when you cry, relish more the moment when joy explodes within your heart
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Sunday, August 22, 2010

I Praise - Day 22 (The gift of family)

They make me laugh, they make me cry, the make me mad, they make me glad. I want them out, then I want them so close.

Lord, I spent time with family this weekend, and You reminded me of how blessed I am to have them, Mom, Dad, Five sibs and their wonderful kids, and best of all, my number 1 family, D.

Today Lord, without so many words but with an outflow of joy, I thank You for these people, the good times and the bad, cos together we paint against the canvas of life and even though its still incomplete, what we have done so far is a masterpiece.

Start the new week with thanks people....*hugs*
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Saturday, August 21, 2010

I Praise - Day 21 (The Gift of Growth)

Today i had one of those "Look how far You've brought me" moments.

Growing up, I started out great, yeah i was major stubborn and playful in pry school but my grades were always tops, then came sec school (high school) and i began to wonder...maybe my mates back in pry school were not the real deal intellectually (no insult intended pple, i still love you to bits), i became the kind of kid parents dread to have...the best result i came home with was 9th out of a class of 30, coming from my background...that was major disappointing.

By my college years, I just gave it up and settled comfortably into the average range....until my 3rd year that is, and although i didn't graduate with the kind of result I desired, i told myself i was no failure, and today, when i look back 6 years ago, I smile, cos that young woman who was unsure has blossomed beyond what she felt possible...that naive and self conscious girl, has grown into a confident woman, willing to pursue it all.

So father, today, I want to thank You for where You have brought me from, Its not my doing, so I do not boast in me, but its what You did for me when You began to show me who I am in You...For this father, I lift my hands and say Thank You.

What are You thankful for today?
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Friday, August 20, 2010

I Praise - Day 20 (The gift of better days)

Driving to work this morning Lord, with the heavy rains and flooded roads, Hubby and I exchanged stories...from leaking busses, to leaking cars (the kind of leaks you dont even have money to fix and you chew gum and use it as a patch until it wears out again), to days of being splattered by motorist and having to go back home to change...Lord, it was a hilarious ride this morning.

But I realized I had taken this gift for granted, You changed the story several years ago and we just took it for granted...the upgrade in life, better jobs, better rides, comfortable living, being able to afford things we once struggled to get.

For Our changed story Lord, we want to say thank You, that we can sit and laugh about the past, we really are grateful, and several years down the line from here, when we are even "bigger" than we are now, we would still remember the former days and still lift our hands to say thank You, cos thanking You can never be over-done.
What are You thankful for today?
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Thursday, August 19, 2010

I Praise - Day 19 (The Lord who perfects)

Day 3, I thanked God for my big sis (Karen's) new job, even with her pregnancy. Today, she shares with us how God perfects what He has started.
Indeed, the blessings of the Lord....adds no sorrow

How shall I begin to talk about a God that I will never comprehend..............

So I got the job offer when I was six months pregnant. Funny isn't it? After searching all these months. Well, that's just the start of the story. In the last few weeks, I've seen, in an amazing way, the concept of God as a perfecter of all He starts.

I resumed work at my new office in the 27th week of my pregnany. During the new recruit orientation course, I was told that I would not be allowed to work after the orientation but rather, would be required to stay home and resume after the birth of my baby. This was not the plan. I had already resigned from my former job and couldn't afford to sit at home for six months without pay. Hmmmmmmmmm. So I approach one of the top guys in HR and tell him that I want to work till the week before my EDD and I know I'm strong enough to do it. He asks me to write a letter to that effect and pray the MD would approve.

Did I pray after submitting the letter? I sincerely didn't even have the time to do that before the HR guy calls to say the MD has approved the letter. I get to work for 2months and some weeks then get my full maternity leave with pay. If this is not about an incomprehensible God, then, I don't know who it is about. All I can say is 'Eru Olorun ba mi'
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Wednesday, August 18, 2010

I Praise - Day 18 (The gift of a home)

Got a call from my mom recently, My uncle (my dad's cousin) was evicted from his house and he,his wife and his three kids showed up at my folks place unnanounced and are staying with them now.

The call made me think of so many things, it was upsetting that an able bodied man would pack all and sundry and move into the house of his over 70years old uncle, without even the curtesy of a warning call, but on another note, it made me grateful, Grateful for the provision of a home and of security.

It can't be fun to be them, knowing that your nieces and nephews are upset with you cos they feel you're burdening their parents, You go to sleep at night, wondering why life took that turn for you, and in the morning you wake up, wanting to crawl under a rock and hide till the shame and disappointment in your family's eyes goes away.

So today, I'm just really grateful for provision, and for the fact that, when I walked through the doors this evening, it was into my own home and though I could tell myself, well,hubby and I work hard to ensure we have a home, I can't still help but thank You cos in reality, anything could happen, but Father, You have not allowed anything happen, and for this, I say "THANK YOU"

PS: I know I also complain about the vicinity we live in now, and even though we work towards and pray to move into a better neighborhood, I'm still grateful for where we are now.

What are you thankful for?
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Tuesday, August 17, 2010

I Praise - Day 17 (The gift of health)

I'm exhausted, the past two days have been hectic and tomorrow seems like its going to be same....but when I sit back and think about it, I'm grateful I am whole and have full health, I'm grateful that I have the energy and ability to achieve all that needs to be achieved.

That I'm healthy, is not a function of my doing, but Yours Father, infact, I can't remember the last time I had to visit a hospital for treatment of one sickness or the other.

For my health Lord, today, I lift my voice and say Thank You.

And most importantly, for everyone who has joined in thanking You for one thing or the other, may their mouths never cease to find reasons for which to thank You.

What are you thankful for today?
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Monday, August 16, 2010

I Praise - Day 16 (The gift of a job)

Today was exhausting....phew, I'm sure glad I'm home now though, and I can just kick back and relax.

Today Father, I'm thankful for my job....I'm thankful cos

1. My hours are mega flexible

2. I meet great people daily

3. I have an obnoxious yet fascinating boss

4. I love what I do

5. It allows me pursue other things.

And even if I didn't have all of the above to be thankful for, I can be thankful just for the fact that I have a job.

What are you thankful for today?
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Sunday, August 15, 2010

I Praise - Day 15 (The gift of hope)

Prov 23:18(NIV)
There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off.

Today Father, I want to thank You for the hope I have in You, in the midst of the raging storms, when nothing else makes sense, I can make sense from Your Word, from Your presence, from Your Love.

That means more to me than my words could ever express.

PS: Just to share a word from service this morning.
"When we pray, God intervenes, when we praise, He shows up in His divine presence...ask Paul and Silas"
Their praise invited God's presence and when He showed up ALL (not just Paul and Silas') the prison doors and chains were undone....Nuff said, get your praise on pple....Have a blast this week :)
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Saturday, August 14, 2010

I Praise - Day 14 (The gift of having seed to sow)

Its a wonderful feeling to have help in our time of need, we feel so down and out and then a friend, family, a stranger, someone else does something for us that makes us smile and uplifts our heart.

Better still is when we are the one on the giving side, the smile we see when we wipe a friends tear, the sigh of relief when we help give a friend a helping hand, that simple thank you we get from the stranger we helped with the door cos they had their hands full....ok, we get the picture...:).

I got a phone call last night, and my friend broke down crying, she's so dear to me that I actually felt her pain, but the best part is, just days ago, I received something that would make it possible to help her, for this gift, I want to say thank You. We spoke again this morning, and though somethings are still shaky, we both said words of thanks for renewed hope.

So Lord, thank You for reminding me that, when we help out another man, its cos we have been blessed by You that we can bless others, You have loved us, so we can love, You have forgiven so we can forgive, You have increased us so we can increase another.

Thank You father for the gift of having seed to sow in the life of another.

PS: Luving this weekend already, hope y'all are too....
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Friday, August 13, 2010

I Praise - Day 13 (The gift of vision)

I woke up with the excitement of today, the adrenaline pumping hard, wheels turning.

I used to wait till the end to praise God, until I realised that every phase of a vision is a gift, the gift of conception, the gift of pkanning, the gift of implementation and then the gift of success.

What happens when we don't suceed? We thank God for learning how not to do it next time and for concieving new ideas for success.

There's joy in every phase so Lord today I'm saying THANK YOU for the gift of a new project.

Thank You for my team, thank You for our strengths, our weaknesses, thank You cos we strenghten each other. Thank You for today as kick off meeting commences, and thank You cos we know Your presence would lead us through every phase.

PS: These past two weeks have been amazing, When you set you mind to find reasons to be grateful, it refreshes and strenghtens your spirit.....Have urselves a blast this weekend .... Muah
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Thursday, August 12, 2010

I Praise - Day 12 (The gift of divine protection)

Driving to work this morning, I witnessed two accidents, one involved  injury/the loss of persons, the other did not but the vehicles were is a real nasty state.

Those of us who live in Lagos know how crazy driving can sometimes be, and how most times we teach ourselves to drive as though we are the only sane person on the road.
Some days, we get so overwhelmed in the chaos that we sometimes join in on the crazed driving pattern.....

If we are motorists in Lagos, and we are alive, we are whole, we have no cause to lie on the hospital bed, or maybe we have been on that bed, but today the story is different, we need to lift up our hands together and say "Thank You Father" this morning.

Daddy, today my heart is filled with gratitude for how you have kept me and my family, through the many years of driving, we have had no cause to weep and this has nothing to do with how careful we are or how good our driving skills are. So many who were better at driving or even more careful have lost their lives due to the carelessness of another, so over and over again Father, we say thank You.

Thank You for even those days when we had to commute, you took us out and brought us in, we have mounted okada's, the danfo we were in has crossed a trailer dangerously, but in all of these, Your hand of protection has been mighty upon us.

I take a moment to pray for all those who have lost persons, or have had to be hospitalized due to accidents, i pray for the people we saw this morning...Lord, be their strength be their comfort, sometimes, when words fail to make meaning, You are the only part of life we can hold on to that makes sense, In their dark moments, help them make sense of life through You.


* okada - local motor-bike used as a means of transport
* danfo - public bus
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Wednesday, August 11, 2010

I Praise - Day 11 (The gift of God's word)

Have you ever had that kinda day/moment, when you're reading the bible, and there's that "aha" moment, that light bulb that turns on in your head, at that moment, the word of God is so real and profound to you, more real even than the things you can see.

You heart surges with faith, trust, praise, a whirlpool of emotions, feeling and thoughts, you just literally want to grab God and hug Him so tight...His Rhema fills Your heart, and empowers You to do, to be, to see, to hear, the things you never would have been able to if it hadn't been for His word.

This morning daddy, I want to thank You for Your word...Your word is true, Your word is life...You sent that specific word to me just at the right time, only You could have worked out such a great plan...

Psalm 119:130 (Amplified Bible)

130The entrance and unfolding of Your words give light; their unfolding gives understanding (discernment and comprehension) to the simple.
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Tuesday, August 10, 2010

I Praise - Day 10 (For the gift of love/friendships)

This morning Daddy, I though about changing seasons and how some of my friendships experience this, I thought about that particular relationship that is right now metamorphosing into a different phase, a phase that doesn't fill me with fuzzy feelings like the previous phase did, and I though that sucked, but then You reminded me of how no matter the season of change, no matter who goes and who stays, you have always remained steadfast, Your steadfast love never ceases.

In those brief moments spent with You today before I got out of bed, You reminded me that, even when seasons change, You never change, and when life happens and relationships change, I can thank You for the gift of caring enough for someone, to miss them when they are gone.I can thank You for the days we laughed together, cried together, grew together and conquered together. I can thank You for the shared dreams over lunch and the glimpse of greatness in the life of another.I can thank You for conversations that challenged me to be a better me, and for encouraging words that pushed me back on my feet when I wanted to throw in the towel.

So this morning, I thank You, for the gift of Love, Your Love, the Love of family, The love of friends (past, present and love that though still present, has changed). I thank You cos I know what it feels like to love deeply, I thank You cos I'm learning what it feels like to love truly, I thank You cos most importantly, I have Your love and daily, You teach me to love.

PS: Read this somewhere, and since it relates to my thanks for today...I decided to share a bit of it

Seasons come and go and we can’t fight those seasons from coming. We can’t halt the changes of Autumn nor the storms in the Winter. We need to accept them as they come, through grace. God has a plan for our friendships. Sometimes He brings them to us to bring us uplifting days, a shoulder to cry on, or just a day of fun among friends. He also allows us to suffer from the harsh storms of life, but He is always in control of the changing seasons. None of us enjoy when friendships change. We are comfortable in our friendships and we sometimes horde those friendships for ourselves. We don’t like to share those friendships and we don’t like to let them go, but we can’t control our friends. We can’t force those leaves to stay on the tree. They are changing and must fall eventually. The wind carries them away, dispersing pollen to neighboring lands to bring forth new friendships in the spring.

When the time comes for friendships to change, God has a plan for them and for you. If the winds of life come, and they will at some point, don’t fight it. They come for a reason, even if we don’t understand it. It’s much more pleasant to let your friends go where God leads them, with love and respect. Let them know you love them and you send them with blessings!

PSS: Blessing has a testimony right here, and since its a month of thanks, I just cant help but share...Join her in thanks today as I do :)
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Monday, August 9, 2010

I Praise - Day 9 (Thankful for a job well done)

Yesterday was almost chaotic (still managed to have a great time in the midst of it all though )....had to complete a job over the weekend and my painter had bitten more than he could chew apparently....he had several jobs on hand so wasnt on site regularly to supervise his boys...Every other thing was going according to schedule...blinds were covered, carpets laid, cleaners were already itching to start so they could pack up early and the painter calls me in church to inform me that he is short of paints....less than 7 hours to go, a supplier who has told me on several occassions that he did not make deliveries on sundays, and an almost tacky job staring me in the face...I took a deep breath, walked into a room and said a prayer for wisdom.

So Father, this morning,  I thank You for You word that says "The king's heart is like a stream of water directed by the LORD; he guides it wherever he pleases" (Prov 21:1 NLT)...for even though my heart remembered that sunday the supplier refused to supply my site, still You said I should call, and voila, he came through for me this time.

I Thank You for the change that came over the workers, where they started out shabbily, they ended the job excellently.

I Thank You cos I did not have to hide my head in shame or begin to think up excuses, I drove by his morning and what I saw on site gives me reason to say Thank You Father over and over again. i look forward to a wonderful week ahead.

What are you grateful for today?

PS:  Praising God even on days when we don't seem to see reason to, is a great experience and it is what we are called to do as believers. Its easy to lift up Holy hands when things go as we plan but once our plans seem messed up, its hard to see reason to thank God.....I challenge you today, Allow your mind to think when caught in the storm of life, cos if you do, you'd find many reasons to still lift up your hands and say Thank You Jesus. (Hab 3: 17-19)
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Sunday, August 8, 2010

I Praise - Day 8

Today Father, I praise You, because it is Your will.

In everything,give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you (1 Thess 5:18)

I praise You, not just for the things You've done, but just because of who You are. In the good times and in the storm, You remain the most high, worthy of my praise.

I thank You today, cos in the midst of an ever changing world, You remain the same, when the circumstances around me toss me back and forth, up and down, I find my anchor in You.

I praise You Lord for who You are.

Though the fig tree may not blossom, Nor the fruit be on the vines; though the labor of the olive may fail, and the fields yield no food; though the flock may be cut off from the fold, and there be no herd in the stalls - Yet I will rejoice in the Lord I will joy in the God of my salvation.
The Lord God is my strength;He will make my feet like deers feet, and He will make me walk on my high hills.
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Saturday, August 7, 2010

I Praise - Day 7 ( The Joy of celebration)

This morning Father, I awake with joy in my heart, You fill our hearts with Joy and our mouths with praise, and so as I rejoice with ur son, my husband, for the blessing of another year today, and I rejoice with your daughter, my friend, for the blessing of a new phase in her life (her wedding) I lift my hands to You and say "Thank You Lord".

We do not take for granted the fact that we celebrate our birthdays each year, nor do we take for granted the gift of growth and maturity, I bless You for every turn and experience You have brought Him through that has made Him the man He is today.

When she met him years ago, she never thought that when this day comes for her, his lips would be the one she kisses when she says "I do", but you have brought the this far, 9 years of being together, only to start again on a whole new path.

I Thank You for Your blessings that make rich and adds no sorrow, as I rejoice today with Your children, I rejoice in a blessing that You have made perfect.

Thank You Lord as You grant them the deep desires of their heart.

What/who do you celebrate today, Let's give God thanks together.
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Friday, August 6, 2010

I Praise - Day 6 (The gift of Profit)

Isaiah 48:17 (Amplified Bible)

17Thus says the Lord, your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel: I am the Lord your God, Who teaches you to profit, Who leads you in the way that you should go.

I got a call 2 days ago, to submit a proposal for the refurbishment of an office, just a small face-lift here and there and today, I thank God cos work has begun, the proposal went through without drama and "unnecessary" haggling and by next week, we would be done.
So father I Praise You, for you have caused my hands to prosper, You word said a mans gift would make room for him and bring him before great men...I Praise You for I stand before great men, not by my strength, but by Your grace and favor.

I thank You for the vessel you used as a connection for this job and I bless the works of his own hand, as he has availed himself to be used, so also would men avail themselves to
 be used as vessels by you on his behalf.

I thank You for workmen that are skilled in their ways, men who commit themselves to diligence and excellence, I thank You for we would come through on this job and the many more to come, because of Your Spirit that lives within us.

I thank You Father, for You are true, I thank You Father for You are sure.

What are You thankful for today?

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Thursday, August 5, 2010

I Praise - Day 5 (The Gift of marriage)

This morning Lord, I'm thankful for the gift of marriage and the wonder of that treasure you wrapped up in your husband.

Was browsing through the web on marriage and roles of husbands and wives and stumbled upon the 10 commandments for Husbands

Going through it, I realised that to take for granted the fact that God has blessed me with a wonderful man and to see it as the "norm" for him to be the way he is would be a kind of ingratitude on my part , so I Praise you father for I have a husband....
1. Who does not take me for granted, but honors and respects me as equal. (1 Pet 3:7) 
2. Whose highest allegiance, except God, is to me, not his relatives or friends (Gen 2 : 24)
3. Who frequently tells me how important & valuable I am to him. (Phil 2:3; Prov 31:10-11)
4. Who holds my love by (almost) the same means that he won it. (Sos 5:10-16)  
5. Who actively establishes family discipline with my help. (Eph 6:4) 
6. Who remembers to do all the little things for me when he says he will. (Mt 5:37) 
7. Who keeps his eyes on his own wife, not his neighbors. (Prov 5:15-20; Job 31:1; Jer 5:8)
8. Who makes every effort to see things from my point of view. (Gen 21:12)
9. Who does not fail to kiss (or hug) me every morning. (Sos 8:1) 
10. Who is not stingy with me when it comes to money. (Esther 5:3) 

He did not give me an ultimatum to bear him children, else he would leave me, like Cynthia's husband did, neither did he turn away from his responsibilities when the rent was due so that i had to go and beg my siblings for money, like was the case with Esther. He did not talk me down in public the other day when I upset him, like is usual with Ore's husband, neither did he hit me the other day we had an argument like Mike always does. 

When we faced that mountain that seemed so great, he held my hands and we prayed, we stuck it together with You as our only hope, he did not turn to booze for a quick relief , nor turn to the company of friends to keep him away from the burdens back home.

 If I keep on I wont stop, so Father, I thank You, for the things I've mentioned, and the things I have left out.....You are the one whose blessings add no sorrow, I praise You today, for You have filled my home with Love and peace.

What are You thankful for today?

PS: All names mentioned above, though referring to actual living persons are fictional for the purpose of protecting their identities
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Wednesday, August 4, 2010

I Praise - Day 4

"There shall none be barren, neither shall any cast their young..."

Forever Oh Lord, Your word is settled, have You said it, would You not do it?

Last night, I rejoiced with Your daughters, for when we called, You answered, and You watered the land others had called a wildeness.

This morning Lord, I thank You for the blessing of the fruit of the womb, I praise You because together we have prayed, together we have waited on You and today, together we rejoice in You.

PS; I am excited for 2 very special women in my life who have gone through a season of waiting and today I praise God as they walk into a new season...

What are You thankful for today?
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Tuesday, August 3, 2010

I Praise - Day 3

"I don't even know where to go again, the offer they made is just not worth it, at this rate my chances are wearing thin what with my pregnancy and all, I was hoping this would be it, at least since I'm just 5weeks gone, I still have time to show my potentials before my due date, that way no one would have issues when i have to take my maternity leave, well, worst case, I'd just stick on and keep working here, for now though, i just leave it all to God"

Those were the words Karen , (my immediate big sis), typed as we chatted few months back,she's been working in the same firm with her hubby and being that her hubby is a partner, its not been a very "exciting" experience since after their wedding, so she really had been praying for another job so she could resign and move on. Now, just yesterday I got a text from her saying she got offered a job in a much coveted institution and she did not even apply for the job in the first place, she's expected to start on the 16th. Although she was supposed to be posted to Abuja, they changed it to Lagos so she could remain with her husband, she is just about three months away from her due date, and they know and are willing to still offer her the job, with a pay way beyond what she expected.

So today Father, I want to thank You for Your word that says "A Mans heart devises his way, but the Lord directs His steps"....for where we planned and schemed, You stepped in and moved us along the path You had set for us, the same God You are who makes a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

We lift up our hands in gratitude Lord, and thank you for this that You have done and the many more You are still yet to do, we praise You for who You are.

What do you Praise Him for today?
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Monday, August 2, 2010

I Praise - Day 2

This month for me is going to be a month of thanksgiving, along side the thousands of others in my church, and I have decided to thank God for everyday of the month and in every situation on this blog.Although I missed out on yesterday, nothing would make me miss out on today, I feel excited already, dedicating this month to focusing on what God has done and not what seems not to be working....we can get so overwhelmed by "issues" that we forget to take a deep breath and just bless the like David I say "Bless the Lord, oh my soul and all that is within me, Bless the Lord and forget not His benefits" today, I Praise God for........

Always Being There

1 Corinth 10
 13No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he'll never let you be pushed past your limit; he'll always be there to help you come through it. 

I have had days when I woke up feeling like no one understood how tough a particular situation was for me, days when I feel the other person doesn't know how good they have it.....this verse puts me back on track on such days....I spend my energy magnifying the problem when in reality, its not as "special" as I think it is.

So this morning, I thank You Father, for even through the toughest days, You have gone ahead to make a way through...and You're always there...You never let me walk the path alone.

I thank You for the grace You give, I thank You for the glories due you when I have walked through and come out victorious.....I thank You cos though sometimes I forget, You always remind me that this has happened, not to break me, but to build me....I praise You Father for the strength and comfort I have in You.

What do you thank Him for today?????
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Tuesday, July 20, 2010


Last night, sleep did not come easy, so while i waited for it, i thought over the past one month and did an inventory of my thoughts and emotions...and the list below made the top three list of thoughts and feelings I'm not so proud of...

1. To the 7 wonderful women around me that are pregnant (2 sis, 1 sis-in-law, 4 friends) my thoughts were...please, don't load me with your stories of pee-ing, and back aches and barfing...if I ask, then i want to know, if i don't, i really don't wanna know

2. To my Dear Husband "D" my thoughts were, I'm on a major hormonal roller coaster so I really cant be nice all the time

3. To my friend going through a really tough time...get a grip girlfriend, life sucks sometimes so really, stop sulking and find the will to move on, I've got stuff to deal with too you know so quit your whining.

I could go on and try to explain these thoughts, but i wont, and finally as i drafted off to sleep, I smiled, cos i remembered that through the course of the day (yesterday)

1. I spoke wit all except 2 of the expectant mothers, and we shared stories and laughed real hard from our hearts

2. D hugged me real hard and whispered "You rock babe"

3. Spoke wit my friend and we thought up a game plan together, its working so far.

And for me....I'm just glad i didn't remain in that place....

PS: If you never have "un-charitabe" feelings towards others...pls kindly share your secret by comment or inbox....I really wanna know how ;), and if you're like me and u just wanna confess it...feel free to do same...I promise, i wont judge you :)
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Friday, July 16, 2010

Not the other Woman, But.....

Dinner - Check
Dishes - Check
Kitchen Cleaned - Check
Doors locked - Check
Trash out -  Check

All that was left....a nice warm shower and then snuggle in to bed, another great day had come to an end.

I tossed the towel on the bed, Mike was in the toilet, I could hear him whistling a ridiculous number as he did his business, I undressed and just as I grabbed the towel off the bell, his phone fell.

I picked it up and pressed a button to ensure that nothing had gone bad, and was relieved when the lights came on. One of his constant habits is dumping his phone after reading an sms without exiting the page, so out of habit i was about the press the exit button when i caught the words..."I'm home now..." so I proceeded to read it and it said "Oga mi, I'm home now, phew, what an exhausting ride.., Have you had dinner?, guess you'd be turning in soon, see you at work tomorrow and regards to ur wife".
I smiled and returned the phone to its pouch.

The text was from Evelyn, his subordinate at work...and for me, this had gone on for 3months too long...

For some of us married gals, this scenario may seem familiar, the spouse isn't cheating, nah...not at all, 

"this other person is just a colleague at work, a member of the same unit in church, a fellow volunteer at the orphanage...a harmless other, nothing at all in-between, not ever has there been a night out, a stolen kiss, an inappropriate hug or lingering handshake...nothing....that's how we explain when the wife gives us the.."whats with the over familiarity" look.....infact, most of our men, even when they are not guilty, once you just ask..."what was that about"...gen gen (tense music)...defenses are up.

"We were just talking o, there's nothing, she's just concerned cos I had a headache at work earlier, its just her nature, she's just generally caring, haba, but you know she has a guy she is dating...."

Guy...Chill, its not the Spanish inquisition, we just wanna know where to place the babe.

She's not the other woman, she's not a bitch, she's not a snatcher, she's not a home-wrecker..she's just the girl who wishes her "man" was as perfect as your husband, or she's the friend to your husband, who is yet to find another man that understands her and can advise her the way your husband used to....before he got married.

Problem is, while clueless hubby is just being a friend, lil miss "just a friend" is setting her heart up for major confusion, and if she's not wise enough to learn where to draw the line, someday...maybe when she's lonely, or when she just got dumped, or when she's majorly frustrated with life, or maybe even when she's just tired of waiting on her man to step up and be man like yours is, shit is going to hit the fan, and God help you if hubby doesn't have his umbrella up at that point cos shit is going to splatter all over him like fruit juice in an open blender.
Plus, someday "husband man", those late night "counseling sessions" you honestly and innocently have, advising her on her love life after group vigil in church, might turn ugly ...maybe on the night when she's so overwhelmed with "issues"

Truth is, we never plan for stuff to happen sometimes, but the wise ones understand that in life, prevention is better than cure.

So, set boundaries, let the other person understand that it can be a tad bit inappropriate to keep tabs on the well being of a married person, that's one of the perks of marriage after-all, so, he's covered, thank you, and if he's not....well, that's a story for another day....(Wife of that man O.Y.O lo wa o).

Don't encourage the other silly as it sounds sometimes we women just feel, "well if he isn't pulling away, its cos he likes the attention, maybe he needs more TLC, aww, if only his wife understood how much he deserves it and more".

And most importantly, don't set your emotions up for being tested, at some point, you and wifey might have a fall out, most likely, at that point, you would be vulnerable...there's so much that can go on in a vulnerable heart, so as much as you trust yourself, guard your heart with all diligence.

And wifey, its okay to let him know you ain't comfy with a certain relationship, now this part is tricky, cos some of us are just generally insecure or possessive (jealous), being any of this can lead us to deal with matters in an immature manner and push our spouse away, but, if we are not any of the two, a calm discuss should pass the right message across.

Bottom the issue of friendship with another persons spouse..both the be-friender and the be-friended should learn where to draw the boundary lines.....Have a great weekend y'all, dont we all deserve to do just that?

PS:....I guess this happens the other way round as well (wife having a male friend that gets hubby feeling uncomfortable), but i chose to concentrate on the hubby cos that seems to be more rampant.

PSS: How can we clearly define or draw the line between being careful and being jealous and over possessive?

Thursday, July 8, 2010

I am not perfect....and i wont pretend I am

I am not that girl,
Always brighht and gay,
Never a frown or a scowl,
But golden smile, always I flash.

I am not that lady,
Ever, only beauty I see.
For I believe not all babies are born cute,
And some days, I scarce see the good in certain few

I am not that woman,
Welcoming my spouse always with a smile,
A hug, a dance and excitement so novel indeed.
Cos sometimes, all i want to do is scream out loud.

I am not that daughter,
Always strong and firm in faith,
Never swayed by looming frustrations.
Alas some days, trusting is the toughest feat ever.

Yet in all my flaws I find
The makings of a gem, exquisite and rare
So, pretend to be she I am not, I scarce can do
But rather embrace the path that unveils my true depths.

For those times when we wonder why we're not nicer, friendlier, smarter, more patient or more gracious than we is saying, its okay not to be perfect, as long as we remain on that road that would lead us to who we have been made to be

So we don't need to pretend, by the words we say, or the things we allow others see, cos really, nothing is ever hidden under the sun..... And we never know but sometimes, our flaws teach more that our pretend perfection does....
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Friday, July 2, 2010

Fantasies of Reality

I stumbled on this last night....I wrote it in 2004...two years before I met the person who inspired it....D.

My heart beats and
    Rhythms resound in my head
            As Hand in Hand
                   And step by step
                        We dance..mesmerized beneath
                                   the starlit skies

Sweet Fantasy
    You whom i  know, yet know not
           I long for that sweet day,
                when finally my hearts desires
                     are made reality,
                          and then our love, so rich
                                Is poured out in abundance

I'm captivated by thoughts of you
    I close my eyes and I imagine
       Cold nights with me in your arms
            Sad head on your shoulders
                  Joyful laughter and yours
                      Silent stare in my eyes

And when the day comes
    I will be first to sing
        For then, my love for you
            Can spread her wings and fly
                Without shame, I'll shower with my all
                     As you embrace my heart
                           And hold it dear, for all days to come.

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