Thursday, February 26, 2009

By whose influence?

Few things get me upset or irritated...i'm one of those that can really give others a long rope but one thing i guess i really cant stand are people who have a problem with coming out straight...for whatever reason it might be...fear, manipulation, pride...whatever.

This morning, my colleague gets an sms from a client who wants to have some renovation done in her office, he's kindda busy i guess so he needs to pass it on to someone else..my intercom rings and he say's he needs to see me, please can i come to his office

Him: We got a message from Mrs. A, she needs us to do some work so we'd need to take some measurements, she'd be in her office by noon.

Me: OK, no problem, lemme know when you're ready

Him: Should i send the sms to your phone?

Me: No need for that, why would i need it?

Him: So you'd know the address and all

Me: You already have it so i dont need it

Him: You do

Me: Why would i when we'd be going together.

Him: I'm kindda working on another proposal, so i'm a bit busy

Me: So you want to dump your work on my table...right?

Him: Well, Mrs. A (our boss), asked me to tell you about it

Me: Forget it, if she wants to pass it on to me, she has my office number...and i walk out.

Ok, what's getting me upset? u might ask, for one, he should have come out straight from the beggining by saying, please i have a client i have to meet but i'm tied up with another proposal...could you help me handle that, and i would have said yes, afterall that's what colleagues do for each other, but trying to drop the..."the boss said you should do it" line, that just doesnt work for me, so you think you dont have the neccessary clout to make me do it, but if you mention the boss, i'd go all weak in the knees and do it...yeah right, that really makes you seem weak, and i've always had a problem with people who have to call names to have their way...

Bottom line is...believe in your self and work on your ability to get people to join you in achieving the greater cause, afterall you're all a team, and that's the stuff leaders are made of, they have developed the ability to get others to do things without having to try to force or bully, for some of us, that just doesnt work.

i guess what i'm trying to say here is...we're all leaders or at least we should be, and its not about position, title or designation and the more we develop ourselves and build our own influences, the better we become, but as long as we have to try to use the influence of another to get our way...at some point, we'd get stuck in a rut...

As for my colleague and i....well my boss has been in and out of my office twice since then and not a word has been said about the client...but knowing myself, and being such a sucker for "doing it right", i know as soon as i post this..i'd go to his office and jab him for being a wimp (then he'd smile dat annoying goofy smile he always has) and i'd get the driver and be on my way...hmm, if only he'd change and surprise me one day...
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Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Pursuits vs. Priorities

I'm presently reading "Success is who you are"by Sam Adeyemi (who by the way i respect greatly and its not just cos he's my pastor) and i must confess, today's read has got me thinking...

Page 54, Specifics of planning...Step two
"Give it a deadline. nothing becomes dynamic until it becomes specific....life seems to co-operate with the person whose mind is made up, so decide on what it is and give it a deadline..."

This would be the second year my girlfriend and i would be working on our demo and believe me...we did set deadlines...but here we are...still working on the project.

Last year, we had our excuses, her 1 year contract as a product representative and her need to be at location constantly to shoot new episodes for the series she appears on, my being in school and having to travel to akure almost every weekend, my wedding, and the fact that we also hold office jobs....now, this year, things started out a bit more stable, and although now we have to halt things again cos we lost her mum just recently, reading about planning made me review the few weeks before our loss.

We had 5weekends where we could have been at the studio, but we had reasons to cancel, on one occassion our producer was unavailable on the other 4 occasions, we had weddings, family occasions, valentine and sheer need to rest.
So i'm questioning myself and asking which of these i could have forfieted

1. The wedding?...it was a dear friends wedding, it would have been a shame to miss it

2. Family occasion?..Somehow, it has become increasingly difficult to see them, life is so busy these days with work during the week, and church classes, household chores and catching up on lost time with hubby during the weekends, how do i then tell them i cannot show up?

3. Valentine...I dont get to see hubby until weekends, moreover, its our first as a married couple, he'd understand but i just cant get myself to do that...morover, i really was exhausted..studio just wouldn't have worked (not to mention the fact that since i said no to eating out, i had to cook, so why not use the opportunity to cook for the week?)

4. The sheer need to rest...after all i'm still human.

So, i've drawn up my list and i still feel guilty that we lost all this time even though they were for valid reasons...i'm trying hard here to be responsible and put things in perspective, pursue and realize my dreams but at the same time give proper attention to other really important priorities.I think i know how...a little adjustment and discomfort and i believe we'd get there,but i'm not 100% sure, i can promise myself to try it though and see how things play out. Meanwhile...we need to get thru the loss of mum, who was in more ways than i can remember, a sweet , gentle and loving mum.

Till then, lets keep our fingers crossed and i pray we learn better ways of dealing with our pursuits vs priorities
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Girl Next Door

Hmmm...ok, so where do i start...

Its tuesday morning..and finally i get to start blogging, not that its been on my mind for a long while now, actually just tot of it yesterday so here i am..

I love to share myself, i guess that's why i'm here...tell my stories and hope to encourage someone else, or make some other laff, or maybe even get better insight from another..bottom line is, my mind is like a roller coaster of thoughts that at some point i have to let out or else i'd blow, so here are my thoughts...laid bare and true...no pretences...i'm just here, the girl next door
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